A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
— Proverbs 31:10-11, 28-29, NIV.
The husband leads. The wife submits. The husband works. The wife does the chores. When the husband’s wage isn’t enough, the wife goes out to work. The wife now has the double-burden . And that’s not fair…
Such is the misconception of marriage that the world gives us. The idea that women should fight for their rights to break away from the confines of a patriarchal society also stems from centuries of history where women are less valued .
“Women are called for something greater.”
Building on this misconception is the historical evolution of words like “helper” in Genesis 2 and “submission” (Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 3:18, 1 Peter 3:1, etc) in the Bible.
But, I’d like to break the bubble right there and say that that’s not what women are called to be. That’s a lie that the society throws at us.
Women are called for something greater; women who fear the Lord are to be praised.
Women are called to be Masters of Strategic Planning
“Sing, barren woman, you who never bore a child; burst into song, shout for joy, you who were never in labor; because more are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband,” says the Lord.
— Isaish 54:1, NIV.
There is a family that I know of where both husband and wife never had to do any form of household chores. All chores were managed by children who knew exactly what “respect” and “discipline” is. Before every meal, the children will prepare the table, do the necessary cooking, and serve the food when the time is right. When the meal is over, the children will systematically proceed to do the dishes.
All clothes are washed, dried, folded, and sorted by children. Then when they are done, they proceed to complete their homework for the day. Everything was done in accordance with the timetable laid down by the wife. There are no instances when the children scored below a “B”. There are also no instances where children fall into the temptations of joining gangs, pre-marital pregnancy, pornography, or any form of addictions. All members of the household follow strict rules to ensure that all things are kept in order on the daily basis.
During the wife’s free time, the wife will plan plans for her children and her family. She places children’s education alongside her career. She rented land and taught children agriculture. She collected things that people discarded and turn them into DIY crafts for her children’s art lessons.
She planned additional home-study curriculums so that children may learn things that are not taught in the classroom. At the same time, she sells all that she makes with the children and supported the family’s finances. For the most part, the excess is donated to charities to support the needs of other NGOs. In other instances, these excesses are saved for rainy days.
With all that God has blessed her with, she opens the house door to support other children in need within the community. Children whose parents are in jailed or in another city for work. Children who are roaming the streets and children who are found in slums. She opened the doors of the house to them. She clothed them with clothes she makes; she teaches them the skills of her craft. She pays for their education and opens her café for their parents to dine for free.
All children call her “mother” and her husband praises her unceasingly.
Day in and day out, she teaches these children the commands of God. The house echoes of “love you” and unending singing.
All who visits her house will leave with tears of thanksgiving. There isn’t anyone who wouldn’t praise God for what they saw in her household.
Her husband holds a high-ranking position in a global ministry and leads many churches in the expansion of God’s Kingdom. There isn’t a time when he is concerned about salary for he is assured that there is enough at home with his wife in charge. With the assurance of a God-fearing wife, he could concentrate on his ministry, serving God to the best of his abilities.
There is no overwork, no double burden, no cause of concern for the lack of material necessities.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
— Proverbs 31:30, NIV.
In this relationship, both husband and wife support each other in a God-given role. The husband is called to ministry and is leading Christendom to greater heights. There are specific things that the husband can do that the wife cannot. Likewise, there are specific things that the wife can do that the husband simply can’t.
“In this relationship, both husband and wife support each other in a God-given role.”
This calls for wisdom to understand the distribution of tasks within the family so as to ensure that all that is required is accounted for. This wisdom will require us to return to the Bible for answers. Both husband and wife feared the Lord and sought Him for continual guidance; their prayer never ceases.
God blessed them greatly financially; so much that they are able to give to others around them. All who knew them call them blessed. All the children who she took care of desires to excel in life the way she builds her family.
All who knew her husband sought continually to find out what is behind his successful family. And everywhere he goes, he will praise the work of her hands.
 – Double burden is a term used to describe the workload of people who needs to work and still manage the household chores. Read more here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_burden
 – Throughout history, women are valued lesser than men. Read more here: https://www.nytimes.com/1977/11/13/archives/why-men-dominate-women-startling-new-evidence-of-female-infanticide.html